Alex posted an IM conversation regarding friendships. The social transition from college to post-college life is the toughest. Starting from grade school, you're always thrown into a social potluck where the only common thread among your classmates is that (a) you're the same age and (b) you live in the same neighborhood.

Honestly, (and I've written about this topic before) I do think many college friendships are borne out of convenience. What makes this tough is that many of us discover that our friendships were too contingent upon the convenience (and geographical immediacy) that when we truly need help or understanding from somebody during that transition time ... we find they aren't there.

I'm not too hung up on this (being the cynic that I am) because I've always felt that as a guy, I should be relying on myself for support before reaching out to others.

I'm just happy to share the moments that I've had with my buddies in college, and I try not to sweat too much about how often I'll be seeing them in the future.

For me, once a friend ... always a friend.

Posted by roy on April 17, 2005 at 03:34 PM in Personal | 4 Comments

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Comment posted on April 18th, 2005 at 06:55 AM
what if your "friend" doesn't think you are a friend, my friend
Comment posted on April 18th, 2005 at 03:36 AM
I totally miss living 5 min away from everyone I know :-(
Comment posted on April 17th, 2005 at 03:54 PM
OK, this may just be because I'm a girl, and am therefore totally incapable of relying on myself for support (tongue in cheek) but I didn't find leaving everyone THAT hard until the other day when the contents of <a href="http://www.tabulas.com/~easyjetsetter/807311.html#comment">this post</a> all came crashing in on me.

I'm ok now, it was mostly That Time of the Month, which girls are also famous for (TIC again), and prompted worried phone calls from my mother, but you're right, you realise very quickly that your best friends aren't necessarily the ones you spent all that time with in college.
Comment posted on April 17th, 2005 at 03:52 PM
you're so right though... that's why high school relationships never make it, people drift over the summer, and you never talk to people after you move... the convenience is gone...

*sigh* summer is coming up...