Do you ever just *not* like somebody? It's weird ... growing up in a society that urges you to be open-minded, I can be surprisingly close-minded.

Sometimes you meet someone ... and in the first ten seconds, they act in just a way that you decide, "I really don't like this person. At all." It's not that they offended you or commited a social faux pas (actually it's a good thing to commit a faux pas, cause it's funny) ... it's just you get this feeling that their inner personality is dull or totally not cool. I'm not sure what it is.

There are two such people on the UNC campus ... my close friends know who they are. Heaven forbid if these two people found out how I really feel about them. These two guys ... have done nothing to me ... but I still just _don't_ like them.

One of them just gave me a bad impression the first time I met him ... and then did nothing to really improve on that.

I have a general mistrust of Asians when I first meet them ... which is why I generally avoid KASA and ASA and all those Asian student organizations like the plague. It's not that I'm a "twinkie" ... or that I dislike Asians. But in general, I don't find my way of thinking matching the way they think.

A few years ago, some guys were trying to start a new Asian frat on campus. I actually was semi-thinking about joining the charter class ... the only reason I even considered doing this is because the charter class was filled with some guys that i have the upmost respect for. But then I realized that these guys wouldn't stick around for too much longer, and then I would have to deal with incoming freshmen who ... joined Asian frats.

At the risk of overgeneralizing, I really don't think I would get along with freshman guys who joined Asian frats. I see them around on campus, and just shake my head. But you know what? It's not even a reasonable reason why I don't like them. I realize I"m being close-minded, but I just can't do anything about it. I just see them, and I immediately have this feeling of distrust towards them. Why is this?

Maybe I just don't like those Asian-Americans who walk the fine-line between accepting the American culture and embracing their heritage. I'm all for embracing cultural heritage, but sometimes I see that these Asian organizations is just an excuse to only have Asian friends and to network within the Asian societies on campus, and I detest that. Although my personal life is not that much better, I just feel that joining these organizations closes you off from the network.

Then again, I'm not entirely a social person, so my friends are mostly Asian. But these friends are usually ones I've met through church ... for random acquaintances, I meet a fair mix of Asians and non-Asians.

But how many of those in ASA, KASA, and those frats/sororities really care about the Asian culture? Sure, they do superficial things that make people aware, but on a deeper level, do they care that much? (Note: I don't really care that much, so yet another reason why I choose not to join these organizations) If they don't care, then they are simply joining so they can hang out with other Asians, which then really defeats the purpose of college (meet a lot of different people).

I'm sure this is the most disjointed post ever ... but it's 4am right now. For some reason, I've been sleeping at 8pm and waking up at obscenely early hours the past few days. I think it's because nobody bothers me when I work at 4am in the morning ;)

Posted by roy on August 26, 2004 at 01:48 AM in Personal, Ramblings | 14 Comments

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Comment posted on August 27th, 2004 at 10:06 AM
I get that a lot from people. One minute into hearing them talk, I'm scheming on how to leave. I just don't. like. them.
Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 02:46 PM
I DON'T LIKE YOU.
Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 01:37 PM
Whilst forming an immediate dislike for someone may be your inner radar telling you this isn't the person you should have in your life, which is generally a good thing, it can also keep you from discovering a fine human being. Utilize those immediate feelings as a warning, but do try and reach past them to give the person the benefit of the doubt. Often people are so unskilled at dealing in social situations, whether from their own insecurities or just inexperience, that they give off the wrong impression of themselves. It would be sad if you missed the opportunity to discover a really great new friend.

Cultural organizations were initially important because newcomers to the country needed a place to be with others of their own culture, to ease the frustrations of not being able to communicate. As well, if one was seeking a relationship (ie. dating, marriage) a suitable choice would be found within these organizations. Today, I wonder if they offer the same support.

It is interesting to me that you have this mistrust of Asians. Have you ever examined the reasons behind this?
Comment posted on August 27th, 2004 at 05:13 PM
Yeah. I've written a few entries about it. Basically the argument (really really paraphrased) boils down to:

Asians in America tend to fall into two camps:
1.) Cool
2.) Mindless, spineless, following the crowd, being AzN and showing an idiotic level of "love" for the "motherland" for a culture they're not even aware of (ricers come to mind here)

PM5K (guest)

Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 11:07 AM
You damn twinkie.....
Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 06:50 AM
I don't trust asians... Especially those sketchy Chinese guys!

and the reason you're up so early... You're watching USA Mens BBALL right? =)

MacDaddyTatsu (guest)

Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 04:46 AM
Boy do I ever know what you mean. A few years ago, I was introduced to some people that I didnt really trust deep down. Over time I came to just live with it, but It bugged me everyday. There was just something not right and youre correct...it was entirely based of of my first impression of these individuals. Now I decided to give it time...and time didnt fix the urging I felt I dont know why they struck me as oof, but they did. Years went by and then their behavior got...worse. I called one of them on it and he went ape shit over the most minor of things I asked me to try to cut out. (In this case hating homosexual and propagating that we need to harm them.) First impressions are often your soul telling you someone has a stink soul. Your nose just has to wait and it will overflow out of their mouth eventually. ;)
Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 01:52 AM
I second the working late. Very peaceful.

I think a general mistrust of people is common, especially if you're introverted. I've a few close friends, and more "friends", if you get what I'm aiming at.

I like to confide in, trust less people; it just feels safer.
Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 01:53 AM
Well it's not a general mistrust of people though! I trust everyone but Asian guys.

MacDaddyTatsu (guest)

Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 06:39 PM
....yeah them fucking Oris...HEY WAIT A MINUTE! IM ASIAN! YOURE ASIAN! Mmmmm Eurasian hotties...
Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 02:14 AM
Heh, alright.
Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 09:02 AM
Yeah, exodus. You stupid Candian.
Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 11:13 AM
Hahah, "Candian".

MacDaddyTatsu (guest)

Comment posted on August 26th, 2004 at 06:40 PM
I wondered where all that candy came from... INVADE CANADA!