December 6, 2003
The Concept of Wife
Chris, Yush, Borst and I went to see the Last Samurai (a movie I had been dying to see forever).
It's totally a guy flick and would probably only appeal to guys (so girls, avoid this flick).
Now, in this movie, there is a woman character named Taka. She is a strong but servile woman ... she is the wife of the man Tom Cruise ends up killing in battle yet she falls in love with him.
This led to a discussion which basically turned out to be a whine-fest between Chris, Yush and I that there were no more women like this.
I'm all for the feminist movement, but in all honesty I want to marry a woman who is subservient (not in a bad way) yet strong. It's not that I have some sort of self-esteem issues that require me to be the one in power, but the old ideas of man as the patriarch with the woman as the homemaker seem more comfortable to me. With clearly defined roles, you can concentrate on what you do well.
Of course, this doesn't mean that life is easy for the man; being the patriarch does not mean he can do whatever the fsck he wants. There lies a great responsibility to the man to make the proper decisions and to act with honor; his decision should be in the interest of the family and not to himself.
In relation to the movie, the man of the house was the dominant one in the house, but was expected to make the ultimate sacrifices and to act with self-restraint and abide by the laws of honor.
But yeah, I guess I'm just kinda building my hopes of for that cute, smart, strong woman who sees things my way. This is probably why I developed a huge crush on the actress who played the servile wife in The Last Samarui; the concept of a subservient wife is something that is so rare today. Feminism has stripped it all away (although I'm not saying this is a bad thing; I just have a preference for someone who sees things "my" way).
Chris was talking about how he wants the exact same thing as me when he grows up; he thinks the only place left in the world where girls are subservient and accept this readily is Japan. I think Korea still has a few gems ... but we shall see ;)
But seriously ... if I ever find a girl like the Taka chick in The Last Samarui, I'm going to hold on and never let go ;)
(Thus ends the most chauvinistic post on my journal thus far!)
It's totally a guy flick and would probably only appeal to guys (so girls, avoid this flick).
Now, in this movie, there is a woman character named Taka. She is a strong but servile woman ... she is the wife of the man Tom Cruise ends up killing in battle yet she falls in love with him.
This led to a discussion which basically turned out to be a whine-fest between Chris, Yush and I that there were no more women like this.
I'm all for the feminist movement, but in all honesty I want to marry a woman who is subservient (not in a bad way) yet strong. It's not that I have some sort of self-esteem issues that require me to be the one in power, but the old ideas of man as the patriarch with the woman as the homemaker seem more comfortable to me. With clearly defined roles, you can concentrate on what you do well.
Of course, this doesn't mean that life is easy for the man; being the patriarch does not mean he can do whatever the fsck he wants. There lies a great responsibility to the man to make the proper decisions and to act with honor; his decision should be in the interest of the family and not to himself.
In relation to the movie, the man of the house was the dominant one in the house, but was expected to make the ultimate sacrifices and to act with self-restraint and abide by the laws of honor.
But yeah, I guess I'm just kinda building my hopes of for that cute, smart, strong woman who sees things my way. This is probably why I developed a huge crush on the actress who played the servile wife in The Last Samarui; the concept of a subservient wife is something that is so rare today. Feminism has stripped it all away (although I'm not saying this is a bad thing; I just have a preference for someone who sees things "my" way).
Chris was talking about how he wants the exact same thing as me when he grows up; he thinks the only place left in the world where girls are subservient and accept this readily is Japan. I think Korea still has a few gems ... but we shall see ;)
But seriously ... if I ever find a girl like the Taka chick in The Last Samarui, I'm going to hold on and never let go ;)
(Thus ends the most chauvinistic post on my journal thus far!)
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Ronica (guest)
I do not think that being a subservient wife is something that is rare. Look towards a Christian wife who respects her husband and a husband who loves his wife as himself and you will see the true nature of a marriage. The husband is the head of the household. this does not mean women are doormats it means we are the heart of the home. We can help eachother in these roles but we must never forget that our roles are yes traditional, yes old fashioned but important to the longevity of the marriage. I am a CEO of a small buisness I am also first and formost a wife and mother. I am also very loved and cherished. Because I gave up the fight of being in charge and accepted that I am not. My husband is. :)
jinshil
give me a man that can guarentee my happiness and i will be more than willing to be the traditional house wife. every since i was a young, that's all i wanted to be...a traditional house wife (i guess some effects of growing up in a traditional korean home). but i learned the hard way to actually want this is to put my happiness completely in the hands of someone else. would you like the responsibility of being the complete essence of someone else's happiness? it's a lot of pressure but if you want a subserviant wife, i think that's what you have to give. there are so many guys who demand a subserviant wife, but times has changed. women are pretty much 'equal' to men in our society. we can make as much or more money than men and etc. back then, most women had to be subserviant because they could not support themslves. now, if you can make a woman completely happy without her relying on anything else except you, then you found your 'gem'.
i still want to be that housewife and maybe i will find a guy who can make me happy by being one, but what if he decides that it's too 'boring' and decides to leave? my happiness would leave with him and it would be my own fault that i put myself in that situation. if we lived a perfect world where there isn't divorce and relationships lasts forever, i would not hesitate to be that housewife. but in the real world where those things do exist, even tho i want to be the subserviant wife, all logic tells me to not be one.
ling (guest)
I don't believe in marriage if it's not going to work so I dunno..maybe I'll never get married. However I don't believe in making more money than my future spouse. That would just be uncomfortable for both sexes because in a guy's mind(and that's EVERY GUY) they are supposed to be the ones that supports the family. So yea, I'm all for equality.
phineyae (guest)
And Roy, I feel like you'll be more appreciative to that woman because you're modern man.
yuhoo7
tabulas
And although it would be boring in the long run, marriage isn't an institution implemented for the sake of being excited ...
Anonymous (guest)